re: the cling that kills by anonymous questioner

November 27, 2007 08:23 AM

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dear internet,

is there a way to make a clingy boyfriend stop being so clingy?? i don't want a text message every hour!!! i don't want "how are you doing?" over IM during my workday!!!! i don't want everything i say to get a "i'll come with you!" as a reply!!!

god this is irritating.

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yep -- here's how (comment) (11 votes)
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nah -- no, you just have to ignore their behaviour if you can (6 votes)
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  • fiercenailbunny says:

    I know how you feel, it took me a long time to kick (as in hurt, not break up with) my first puppy boyfriend, but you know what, after I talked to him, hurt his feelings, but talked to him, things actually got better.

    Nov 27, 2007 02:40 PM
  • stinky says:

    The only way to get him to stop is to talk to him about it - you have to be brutally honest here I'm afraid... trying to ignore it will only make it worse.

    Nov 28, 2007 12:23 AM
  • consectari says:

    As the others have said, you have to talk to him. Maybe start small...tell him that you can't chat or text at work. Once he's out of that habit, work on the other issues. Talk to some of your friends and set up a regular night out for just you all, and tell him that he can't come so he gets used to the idea of you going places alone.

    Or dump him, whichever sounds easier...but if you do leave him, for the sake of his next relationship, tell him why.

    Nov 28, 2007 01:03 AM
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