dear internet,
what do you do if a guy/someone you used to go out with and are still slightly crazy about (and still on good terms with) forgets your birthday, even though you've recently brought up the fact that it was "next tuesday"? not that you're expecting cake and flowers, but just a mere SMS would be nice. most of my (guy) friends sent sms's/emails, but not the one I wanted to hear from most. and bear in mind he's used to being told off for not making an effort to stay in touch.
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He sounds either very forgetful, or mean - either way he's a bit hopeless. Is he really worth all this concern?
If this was a recent relationship (that recently ended) then it is possible that, even though you are on good terms, he is unsure where you two stand. There is always a possibility that he didn't know the appropriate thing to get you. If it was too small you might have been upset and if it was too big it might have been awkward. In that case he might have just been paralyzed into not getting you anything at all and just deal with the consequences. Perhaps he is forgetful. Perhaps he was abducted by aliens. Who knows. There are a lot of things you can assume.
Honestly, I don't think you should assume anything. If you want to know the truth then talk to him. A lot of arguments, breakups, and failed friendships could have been avoided if everyone just left all assumptions aside and just talked sincerely to each other. If you count him as a friend you should be able to tell him that you would have really valued a gift from him and ask why he didn't give one to you. I don't think that is too much for a friend to ask.
If you are afraid of the answer he will give if you ask, then that's another problem.
But if you do want to maintain a friendship with him, you might be best to try your hardest to get over him as soon as you can (however one does that...)
I had my ex do this to me. We're still friends and going to stay just friends. I'd love to get back together with him, but I also understand that we broke up for a reason. I just made sure to send him a nice card and call him when his brithday came around.
Sometimes it's not as easy as asking - what if the other guy doesn't answer/ give a straight answer/ has a different definition of friendship?
I think you should register how you feel with him once, if nothing changes, just accept him for who he is and remain friends. Try reading Greg Behrendt's 'He's just not that into you'. Harsh but good.